How To Impress Anyone You Meet
How To Impress Anyone You Meet
If you are reading this, you are looking for ways to make new friends, get
along with work colleagues better, maybe wanting to make your first meeting
with that someone special really lead to something more. There could be many
reasons for you to turn on the most pleasing aspects of your personality.
First impressions really do count but how many times have you met someone who
you didn´t expect to like, or thought gosh that person looks geeky or odd yet
having spoken to them your perception of them completely changes in a short
time?
Well, if you felt drawn to them, or felt like talking to them longer than
expected, or found yourself wanting to hear what they were going to say
next... that person was being charming.
What is the definition of charm, to be charmed or be charming? To charm is to
appeal, attract interest, please or stimulate. In this article, when I talk
about how to charm, it will be with all of the above in mind. I will give you
pointers on how to appeal to people, how to arouse and sustain interest.
If you can do this people will want to see you again, they will seek out your
company, and they will look forward to being in your company again.
Let´s look at what other people want. When you understand this you know what
is expected and wanted from you. People you meet want to be pleased.
This can be achieved using the seven pointers below. Once you are armed with
these you are ready to become the person that people want to be around and see
again. They will seek you out in a party or group and seek your company.
The 7 Elements of Personal Charm:
1. Arm yourself with knowledge - A knowledge of current affairs is useful. You
could speak to work colleagues, bosses at a gathering or on a date. Not too
much to become boring, but enough to start a conversation, join in, or just
sustain chatting. Knowledge can also be gained of the meeting place, the
office, the drinks at the bar, and the food at the restaurant. This
information lets you know how to dress for the venue. Develop knowledge of
other things that people may be interested in such as hobbies, films, books,
can help continue or sustain conversations. Remember the 70/30 rule below of
listening and talking.
2. Confidence - Confidence is gained by preparation. A key element is to
ensure you feel comfortable with what you are wearing. But dress appropriately
for your surroundings, if you are not sure visit the venue beforehand to see
what the rule is. Aim to be firm and take control as this shows quiet strength
which people are attracted to.
3. Sincerity - Mean what you say, be genuine and show interest because you
want to hear what the other is saying. A lack of sincerity will be noticed and
creates an unfavorable response in the other person. In fact, insincerity is
insulting so avoid it at all costs.
4. Eye contact - Not so piercing, that it makes the other person
uncomfortable, but meet their eyes, when you talk to them. Maintain eye
contact throughout the conversation and look away at intervals to keep the
rapport friendly and comfortable.
5. Offer Of comfort - Thoughtfulness - offer the other person a drink, a seat
or to open or close a window. It makes the other person feel valued, and
important. Simple acts of kindness are very much appreciated especially when
you meet people in an unfamiliar environment.
6. Smile with the eyes - Sometimes when people smile it looks false, when the
smile does not reach the muscles around the eyes. So smile with the eyes,
this shows a genuine smile. You look friendlier and it gets a good response
from the other person.
7. Listening and responding - Aim for around 70% listening and 30% talking
time. Listening shows you are interested in what the other person has to say
and want to get to know them better. Listen and respond appropriately. If
talking to a man 50/50 is a good ratio. Being witty is good but dry humor
could be dangerous. And of course, getting a laugh is always good.
Follow these pointers and you will find that you will actually look forward to
those social events you used to hate...
If you are reading this, you are looking for ways to make new friends, get
along with work colleagues better, maybe wanting to make your first meeting
with that someone special really lead to something more. There could be many
reasons for you to turn on the most pleasing aspects of your personality.
First impressions really do count but how many times have you met someone who
you didn´t expect to like, or thought gosh that person looks geeky or odd yet
having spoken to them your perception of them completely changes in a short
time?
Well, if you felt drawn to them, or felt like talking to them longer than
expected, or found yourself wanting to hear what they were going to say
next... that person was being charming.
What is the definition of charm, to be charmed or be charming? To charm is to
appeal, attract interest, please or stimulate. In this article, when I talk
about how to charm, it will be with all of the above in mind. I will give you
pointers on how to appeal to people, how to arouse and sustain interest.
If you can do this people will want to see you again, they will seek out your
company, and they will look forward to being in your company again.
Let´s look at what other people want. When you understand this you know what
is expected and wanted from you. People you meet want to be pleased.
This can be achieved using the seven pointers below. Once you are armed with
these you are ready to become the person that people want to be around and see
again. They will seek you out in a party or group and seek your company.
The 7 Elements of Personal Charm:
1. Arm yourself with knowledge - A knowledge of current affairs is useful. You
could speak to work colleagues, bosses at a gathering or on a date. Not too
much to become boring, but enough to start a conversation, join in, or just
sustain chatting. Knowledge can also be gained of the meeting place, the
office, the drinks at the bar, and the food at the restaurant. This
information lets you know how to dress for the venue. Develop knowledge of
other things that people may be interested in such as hobbies, films, books,
can help continue or sustain conversations. Remember the 70/30 rule below of
listening and talking.
2. Confidence - Confidence is gained by preparation. A key element is to
ensure you feel comfortable with what you are wearing. But dress appropriately
for your surroundings, if you are not sure visit the venue beforehand to see
what the rule is. Aim to be firm and take control as this shows quiet strength
which people are attracted to.
3. Sincerity - Mean what you say, be genuine and show interest because you
want to hear what the other is saying. A lack of sincerity will be noticed and
creates an unfavorable response in the other person. In fact, insincerity is
insulting so avoid it at all costs.
4. Eye contact - Not so piercing, that it makes the other person
uncomfortable, but meet their eyes, when you talk to them. Maintain eye
contact throughout the conversation and look away at intervals to keep the
rapport friendly and comfortable.
5. Offer Of comfort - Thoughtfulness - offer the other person a drink, a seat
or to open or close a window. It makes the other person feel valued, and
important. Simple acts of kindness are very much appreciated especially when
you meet people in an unfamiliar environment.
6. Smile with the eyes - Sometimes when people smile it looks false, when the
smile does not reach the muscles around the eyes. So smile with the eyes,
this shows a genuine smile. You look friendlier and it gets a good response
from the other person.
7. Listening and responding - Aim for around 70% listening and 30% talking
time. Listening shows you are interested in what the other person has to say
and want to get to know them better. Listen and respond appropriately. If
talking to a man 50/50 is a good ratio. Being witty is good but dry humor
could be dangerous. And of course, getting a laugh is always good.
Follow these pointers and you will find that you will actually look forward to
those social events you used to hate...
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